Simple tastes and simple needs are the secrets of a
contented life
I remember that in my school days there was a popular song that proclaimed: “A contented mind is a purse well-lined.” Since then I have often wondered how someone in these hectic and hazardous times can possibly develop a contented mind, and I have dismissed any prospect of a purse well-lined, which does not tempt me so long as I can pay my way from day to day and week to week.
Contentment has been defined as that state of mind in which desires are
limited by present enjoyment, so that the impact of such factors as greed,
ambition, jealousy and fear becomes critical to health, and we can think
about serious challenges like human rights and obligations.
In 1912, Joseph Conrad wrote: “All ambitions are lawful except
those which climb upwards on the miseries of mankind.” This reflection
leads us to think about what we mean when we talk glibly about “human
rights”. Politicians fancy this expression and throw it about carelessly.
Yet it is far from clear what it implies.
For some it means that I can do what I choose to myself and my neighbours,
merely because I take some sort of pleasure in the act. Thus, I may blow
cigarette smoke over people sitting near me, or venture intoxicated into
society under the influence of alcohol or other drugs, because I claim
my individual right to do so. I may drive a car or a boat so as to endanger
my fellows, because it gives me pleasure and a sense of power. And if
my pursuit of pleasure ruins my health, I am still entitled to the resources
of the health services.
At some time or other, nevertheless, social rights have to give way to
social obligations, which necessarily place some restrictions on one’s
way of living. It is in striking a balance between these two demands
that the secret of contentment lies.
To have simple tastes and simple needs makes contentment more achievable.
To envy others their possessions and privileges makes it impossible and
brings stress and all its problems. The magic word is “relax”.
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