What is the purpose of the strange emotion of embarrassment?
Assigning a precise meaning to the term “embarrassment” is difficult. It is a part of social anxiety, partly attributable to undue attention to oneself and worry over social disapproval. Any performance that results in the sense
of having failed, in one’s own self-assessment, is a source of embarrassment.
Individuals always try to present themselves in a favourable light, avoiding
the sense of inferiority.
Embarrassment is uncomfortable to the sufferer and sometimes to the onlookers.
It involves feelings of fear, awkwardness or uncertainty and, unlike shame, only
occurs in the presence of other people. Its purpose is to appease others through
a non-verbal apology. It may be revealed through, for example, an increase in
the rate of blinking, or through an uncontrollable reddening of the cheeks and
sometimes ears or neck or both.
Blushing, as Darwin remarked, is restricted to the upper part of the torso. He
took it as a sign that the person in question was not to be trusted, and regarded
it as involuntary and not under control. Any attempt to cover it up only draws
more attention to the sufferer and merely increases the reaction. Women blush
more than men when subjected to anxiety or embarrassment.
Since embarrassment tends to indicate honourable intentions and not guilt in
any situation, it is a good guide in social interactions. People who show embarrassment
under stress are not as a rule crooks but honest folk.
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